Parenting
29
May
2010
We've All Got a Lego Stuck Up Our Nose

Benaiah comes over with tears in his eyes and says, "EMERGENCY!!!"  He tilts his head back so I can look in his nose and I calmly say, "You're good. You're not bleeding.  Did you scratch yourself or something?"

Shaking his head he says, "No, there's a Lego stuck up in there."  At this point in the story, I'd like to say that I remained calm, cool, and collected.  But, I didn't. My response went something Iike...

"Oh no!  Why would you stick a Lego up your nose?  Honey, get off the phone, we're probably going to the emergency room. Ben, why would you do this?  Don't ever do that again.  Oh man."

Now, in my defense, I looked in his nose and there was most assuredly NOT a Lego up in there which means there was a Lego WAY up in there. So I had a bit of a reason to freak out, at least a little.

We went to the bathroom and one good, hard blow later and the Lego was in my hand. I know it's gross but I was thankful to have the ironically green Lego piece in my hand and not the recesses of my son's nasal and sinus cavity.

He cried a little bit and I was relieved but as we sat there watching Astro-Boy later that evening, I reflected back on my response.... or rather, my reaction.  Not that I freaked out all that much but, I should have remained a bit more calm.  Later in life, when my son has something really important to tell me, I don't want him to be afraid of my reaction.  I don't want him to hold it in Iike we sometimes do, only to try and navigate whatever situation or problem he's facing on his own.

At times, we all suffer silently in temptation, sin, guilt, grief, fear or depression because we're afraid of how others will react.  We've got to do a better job of confessing to one another.  But more than that, we've got to be the kind of people others can confess to because in the end, we've all got a Lego stuck up our nose.

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13
Apr
2010
Cars in Hawaii'!!??

Ben: If we ever go to Hawaii', will we stay one day?

Me: No buddy... it'd be more like 8 or 10 days.

Ben: Without food?!

Me: No man... we'd have food.

Ben:  Oh yeah... coconut trees and bananas.

Me:  No... there are stores there.

Ben:  There are?

Me:  Yeah... and houses and cars and roads.

Ben:  You mean there's buildings there?  How'd they get the paint there?

Ben:  ...(thinking)

Ben:  So... there's cars and they just drive on the sand.

Me:  No... they have roads just like us and everything else.

Ben:  Oh ok... I guess we could go for longer then.

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04
May
2009
Self-Focused and Self-Obsessed

Over at the Desiring God Blog, they've been posting up some articles on children lately that are great for parents but also contain some really good thoughts for us all.  One that really stuck out to me was 5 Things That Are True About Every Child.  You'll have to hit the link to see all five, but I'll give you the last one because it's so true... of me and you... and every child.

5. They are self-focused and self-obsessed.
Sin causes us to shrink our lives down to the claustrophobic confines of our lives, our wants and our needs. It makes us incapable of loving anyone else.

See if this isn't true of me and you as well...

God Is Writing Our Story, Not Us
Because these 5 things are true of all of us, as God is writing the story of our lives, we're always inclined to try and take the pen from him so we can write it ourselves.

The Bible is one long story with God's notes. Ministry to children—or ministry to anyone else—means helping them forsake the urge to write their own story, and accept instead that God is the author. Then their story will be embedded in God's larger story of redemption, so that in every circumstance they recognize that their life is about and for God.

 

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26
Mar
2009
A Perfect Present

Josiah

Me:  "Hey buddy... you know what tomorrow is?  It's a really special day?"

Benaiah:  "Really?  What is it?"

Me:  "It's your brother's birthday.  Josiah turns nine years old."

Benaiah:  "Really?  One day I will be nine."

Me:  "That's right buddy.  You know what I think we should do?  We should go to Target so you can pick something out for Josiah for his birthday.  Would that be cool?"

Benaiah:  "Yeah... but how will we get it to him?  He's in heaven with Jesus."

Me:  "Well he's your older brother and so he'll let you have it.  He loves you so much."

Benaiah:  "So we can share!?  Awesome.  I know exactly what to get.  We'll get him a Spiderman toy.  My brother loves Spiderman."

Me:  "He sure does buddy.  That's a great idea and a perfect present."

 

 

 

 

 

 

I miss you today... and I love you so much.

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30
Apr
2008
The reason I didn't blog much yesterday...
Ben-Bike.jpg
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12
Nov
2007
Outdoor Play Crucial For Creative Development
via ElectroPlankton, I came across a pretty interesting report concerning outdoor activity's role in the creative development of children. It shows the decline in outdoor activity in children's lives compared to just a couple of decades ago.

When I was a child, I didn't spend that much time indoors. My days were spent outside, building forts, playing "guns", exploring the woods, and riding my BMX bike... we even built an entire BMX track and held neighborhood races complete with trophies and ribbons. (I would have won first place because I was stinkin' fast, but I forget one jump and was disqualified. A sad moment in my childhood.)

I don't know... I just wonder what the whole urbanization process is taking from our children. If I'm honest, I'm indoors most of the time and it's not good. So, I'm gonna get out more.... and I'm gonna get Benaiah out more. There's some woods at Highland Park just waiting to be explored.

EDIT [14:08]: Steven's comment got me interested in what everyone else does to "get out." What's your favorite outdoor activity that really takes you there?
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